Why Women Lie: Survey Says It's The Pressure

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Woman Under Stress

Beyond the happy façade– women still feel undue pressure to keep up despite the economic downturn.

Women today are constantly comparing themselves to one another and often beating themselves up when they don’t measure up. BettyConfidential.com today released the results of a survey, which show that irrespective of all the educational attainment and economic prosperity women have achieved over the past several decades, they continue to struggle with their identities and lie to help come to terms with them.

Women revealed that they lie about a multitude of things. Among the most frequently cited topics were their opinions, relationships, accomplishments and their income.

Putting on a Pretty Face

“Women told us that they lie to create the life they aspire to, and to make themselves feel better about their current life,” said Julie Ryan Evans, editor-at-large. “They don’t feel successful enough or thin enough or happy enough in their relationship, so by telling people the way they wish it could be, they get to feel that for at least a little while.”

More than half of women (55 percent) said they don’t consider withholding information a lie. “This was particularly interesting because so many women try and paint this picture of a perfect life, but much of the information they’re withholding may be about an entirely different life going on behind closed doors,” Ryan Evans continued.

Weighty Issues

Not so surprisingly, weight was listed as the thing women lie most about, but what was revealing is that they do so even on official documents. When asked if their real weight was on their driver’s license, 68 percent said their driver’s license weight is NOT accurate.


“I lie about my weight out of embarrassment,” said one respondent. “I hate my weight and want it to be lower,” explained another. And a third said she lies about her weight “because the number is too shocking even for my ears and I think I can pull off a lower number.”

Beware of Strangers

Women admitted to lying most often to strangers; in fact, 33 percent of respondents said they find it “perfectly acceptable” to lie to strangers. Also topping the list of people most often lied to by women were coworkers and/or employees and – significantly –themselves.

What about Men?

Women reported being selective in what they feel it’s OK for men to lie about. For example, 61 percent said they feel it’s OK for a man to lie to her about how she looks. Forty-eight percent said it’s OK for a man to lie about his attraction to other women; and 39 percent said it’s OK for him to lie about her performance in bed.

“Again, the lies women are OK with men telling are those that create an image of the life they want,” Ryan Evans said. “They want to look good and better than other women and they want to be good in bed, and they’re OK with men telling them that they are…even if they’re not.”

On the other hand, 91 percent of respondents said it’s not OK for men to lie about their feelings. In fact, lying about their feelings—particularly about love—was identified repeatedly as the worst lie a man could tell: “That he loves you and he doesn’t,” said one respondent. “I love you when he doesn’t mean it,” said another. Another said the worst lie a man could tell her is “That he loves me completely but at some point, I find out he has another family in another state and has been living two lives.”

Did They Lie to BettyConfidential.com?

More than two-thirds of respondents said in taking the survey they were completely honest.

For a full analysis of the survey, visit BettyConfidential.com/Why-Women-Lie