Tips on how to effectively discipline your child and I agree with them
Discipline is a form of teaching your child. Our children depend on us to teach them right from wrong. When discipline is positive its goals are to protect child from danger, help child to learn self control, help child to learn a sense of responsibility and help instill values.
What makes discipline work?
The best way to deal with challenging behavior is to prevent it. But there will be times when your child acts out in a way that is not acceptable. This is normal. When this happens your child needs discipline that is fair and consistent. When discipline is not consistent it can confuse your child.
First you need to know that out of control kids grow up to be less successful adults. "An international research team led by Duke University psychologists Terrie Moffitt and Avshalom Caspi analyzed data on more than 1,000 New Zealand children born between 1972 and 1973 in measures such as low frustration tolerance, lacking of persistence in reaching goals, difficulty sticking with a task, overactivity and impulsivity. Teachers, parents, observers, and the children themselves all provided input into the measures," reports Denise Reynolds of eMaxHealth.com
How can I help my child to learn good behavior?
- Offer praise and affection regularly
- Know what to ignore, choose your battles
- Plan transitions so that your child knows what to expect
- Offer limited and realistic choices that you can live with
- Be a role model
- Make sure your child knows the rules and limits
How can i deal with misbehavior?
How to discipline depends on your childs age, stage of development, personality and many other factors. There are strategies that can help:
1) redirect child to another activity
2) Use logical consequences. Use clear consequences that relate to the behavior whenever possible.
3) When there isn't a clear consequence you can remove a privilege. (this works best in older children for younger children the consequence needs to happen immediately)
4) encourage problem solving, ask your child's advice on a consequence to misbehavior.
What do i do if my child throws a tantrum?
Dont panic. Tantrums are a normal part of a child's development. They are caused by an overwhelming surge of strong negative emotions that your child isn't able to express in other ways.
You can prevent tantrums by praising good behavior, reducing triggers, distracting or redirecting and acknowledging your child's feelings.
When a tantrum does happen:
Ignore the behavior. Watch from a distance to ensure your child is safe. If at anytime your child becomes so upset that they are at risk of hurting themselves or another person you should hold them with enough strength to restrain him but not to hurt him. Physical punishment is never acceptable. When the tantrum is over redirect him on to a new activity and discuss
Reference for this story: Canadian Pediatric Society.