How to Love Your "Bikini Body", Silence Haters & Change Your Life Forever
Attention men and women of Earth! This is a public service announcement to tell you that if you have a body, then you are ready for the beach and whatever swim attire you choose!
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” —Oscar Wilde
Summer is officially upon us and while the temperature is rising, so is the pressure to look “good” with less clothes on.
The media coined “bikini body” and "beach body" has many people working so hard to become something that they’re not, that they forget who they really are.
It can be easy to fall into the mindset of feeling like you aren’t worthy of showing skin unless you look a certain way.
This can lead to some seriously negative and harmful self-sabotage:
“I’m so ugly. Why would anyone want to look at me in a bikini?”
“I can’t believe how fat I am. I wish I could just lose 15 pounds. Then I’d be happy.”
“I don’t deserve love. How could anyone love this?”
“I’m not surprised so-and-so doesn’t want to date me. Who would looking like this?”
Sound all too familiar?
This kind of inner dialogue blocks your capability for self-love and acceptance. If this attitude continues in the confines of your mind, no matter how much you try, you will never be able to lovingly accept yourself and all your bumpy bits.
Connecting with your authentic self will bring such a sense of peace and love that you will wonder why you didn’t do it long ago. Away with the haters and the shamers...you are you and that is divine!
When was the last time you told yourself, “I love you” and really meant it? When was the last time you felt complete within? When was the last time you looked in a full length mirror and didn’t scowl at the person looking back at you?
So you have wide hips, a flat butt, topography on your belly, arms that blow in the wind, a few chins/knees/butts/boobs, so many dimples on your thighs that you could draw the faces of an entire village... who are you really trying to please? Seeking approval outside of your self will only make you feel less worthy to be the person you truly are inside. These bodies are merely vehicles for us to live in while we roam and enjoy this beautiful earth. As long as you're healthy, just be happy!
Diet, exercise and weight loss aimed at better health and higher confidence is highly beneficial to your mind, body and soul. But striving to lose weight in dangerous and unhealthy ways to fit in with society's view of beautiful (ex: cover models - who BTW account for about 1% of the population) is not only physically harmful, but can really do serious, long-term mental damage. Put in the effort, but only for the right reasons that resonate with your authentic self and reasonable goals.
It takes a lot of work to overcome the pressure put on you by society and yourself. The following loving affirmations can help you chip away at the wall you’ve built over the years.
Say these affirmations aloud each morning and night while looking deep into your own eyes in the mirror...and smile.
- I love you
- I am a unique and a very special person and worthy of respect from others
- I accept others as they are and open myself to be accepted
- What I have to offer from my heart is what makes every inch of my body beautiful
- It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe
- I have a “bikini body” because I have a BODY! (And it's beautiful)
The confidence you will have when you truly accept yourself will shine bright for all to see. This change in mentality can truly change your life forever and release you from the prison of your disapproving and harsh mind.
Be you. Be real. Be honest with what you can and can’t accomplish. Don’t allow the hate of other individuals to dull your own shine and most of all, don’t forget to love yourself unconditionally.