Why Scheduling Makes Your Children Happier During the Holidays When You're Divorced
Divorce can make raising your children more challenging. This is truer around the holidays when family time becomes more important. Here's why making a holiday custody plan makes the holidays merrier and less stressful for them.
According to North Carolina State University, 40 percent of U.S. children will experience divorce before they're adults. They say that younger children are more traumatized because of the confusing changes in the household which their minds have a harder time processing, but these traumas are less likely to affect them in the long term. For teens and preteens, the traumas of divorce can affect them in the long term because they're more likely to repress their feelings.
What are some of the factors causing divorce trauma in children? After a divorce, the socioeconomic environment of your children changes. You're no longer under one house, your marital income is now split, and you've most likely moved away. This means you can't afford things your children are used to having or can't visit paid places our outings as frequently. You're getting used to a new budget, and they're going through the transition too. These abrupt socioeconomic changes would be challenging for children of a couple who haven't divorced – what more for your children?
Psychologists also found that if you have custody over your children and you're the opposite sex of them, your children are more likely to have more difficulties. And if you're frequently fighting over custody or changing your custodial terms, it can traumatize your children more as they're forced to “take sides” or put in a position where they have to wonder if they should take sides.
What's worse? Psychologists also found that these short-term traumas can affect your children in the long term. And that these long-term effects are more serious than the short-term effects. In fact, they found that in over 30 percent of children of divorced parents, they went or go through moderate to severe clinical depression at some point in their lives.
But according to Twyford Law, you can mitigate these possible serious effects this December by agreeing to a holiday custody schedule beforehand. Psychologists found the less stress and confusion your children have to go through, the less traumatizing effects they'll have in the long and short term. December is a family-intensive month – so the effects of divorce are more prominent because your children will be concentrating more on their family. Make sure the holiday custody schedule is detailed – include transportation, approximate times and dates, and locations. The less you need to debate when Christmas comes around, the smoother and merrier your children will feel.
Divorce can traumatize your children. Protect your children from the effects of divorce these holidays with a concrete plan that you and your ex-spouse decide on beforehand.