7 Little Things to Tell a Grandparent and What Words You Should Not Utter
Face it, when someone becomes a grandparent their perception of the world also changes with them, the little ones born becoming the center of their world. There are certain things a person talking to a grandparents should avoiding saying at all costs, but also phrases that will make their day complete. Grandparents.com has shared some lovely Do's and Don'ts every individual should follow.
DO if you are a stranger:
- Mention that she looks too young to be a grandmother. Saying that the child could be the person's own is an amazing compliment as you are praising her as a whole and implying she's still fresh, young and beautiful. Perhaps following these 10 tips will make you look like a young grandma too!
- Proclaim that the child looks like the grandparent. Look at the facial features, the gait of the child, the look in the eyes. The more detailed the compliment, the happier you will make the grandparent.
- If you are a teacher a school, what better way to throw a grandparent over the moon than to mention exactly how much the grandchild mentions them, talks about their trips and praises their elder favorite family members.
- Gush over how absolutely beautiful, adorable, darling or any other amazingly sweet word that comes to mind the grandchildren are. You think parents strut like a peacock upon having their kids complimented? Double the pride for grandparents.
DO if you are the child:
- Ask your parent if he or she wants to hold your child. After all, they are probably itching profusely to hold that baby close to their own hearts. They will probably be remembering you when you were born and have the same love flow to their babies. Your child will thank you for it too, as grandparents are indeed "grand" for them.
- Tell your parent they can keep the children overnight if it is not a problem. Most times, they will be ecstatic at the thought of having them so close for longer than an hour or two. Your kids, after all, are safest with their grandparents.
DO if you are the grandchild:
- Grin like a clown and embrace your grandparents saying that you love them. If you are far away, call them on the phone, use Skype or another video call program and tell them how much you miss them and how much you want to see them. After all, grandparents love to take care of you and you will benefit from their care. It's one great way to ward off depression for both grandparents and grandchildren.
Do NOT say any of these phrases:
- "I hope your children appreciate all you do for their children..."
- "Your grandson or granddaughter is so wild!"
- "Enjoy them now while they are young as you might not see them much when they are teenagers or adults."
- "If you want to be in touch with your grandchildren, you need to learn how to use their new technology..."
- "Do you ever do anything because you want to or are you always slave to your children's and grandchildren's demands?"
- "We're going down on vacation to a five-star resort in the Caribbean. Are you taking your grandkids somewhere as well?"
- "Do you or your children spoil these kids so much?"
No grandparent wants to be told that they spoil their grandchildren too much, even if they do. Irregular bedtimes are a big issue, they know, but it is rather hard not to indulge the kids from time to time. They certainly do discipline those children and there has been a steady increase in the amount of grandparents becoming primary caregivers of late, though this trend is also associated with depression. They will always have a special part of their teenagers' hearts so it is simply mean-spirited to make them worry over something so ridiculous. Furthermore, money doesn't buy family, nor does a grandparent's effort to care for a grandchild need to be acknowledged. It is not a chore for them, but done with absolute love. A grandparent caring for a child is often caring for him or herself as well. After all, that amount of love and laughter in the home can only be good for a person. Why would the grandparent want to spend Friday night alone?
With all this said and done, grandparents should most definitely have legal rights over these children as well. After all, they invest so much in the upbringing of a grandchild.