How To Respond When Your Boy Wants His Ears Pierced
"My boy son wants his ears pierced. His mother called and asked me my opinion, to which I said no. I explained to her that there was a verse in the Bible about markings and cutting on the human body. She didn't agree and said that I was taking the Scripture out of context. Does anyone know of multiple scriptures to back me up or to agree with her?," asks one parent on Facebook.
There is a specific verse in the Bible directly forbidding any piercing or tattoos. Here is the quote from Leviticus 19:28 which reads, "You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh on account of the dead or tattoo any marks upon you: I am the Lord."
Many young people, influenced by "celebrities," media and social trends embrace dangerous things that seem harmless. One of them is when they want their ears or other body parts pierced. Many people would call them "little harmless things." Not only body piercing and tattoos are unsafe and have long term negative health effects, but also they are against the Word of God, especially if you are a Christian and care about following Jesus daily.
Health Risks of Body Piercing
Not only dermatologists object to all forms of body piercing, but there is also these risks. "Health complications associated with body piercing include prolonged bleeding, scarring, tetanus, abscesses, boils and chronic infections such as halitosis (bad breath) from tongue rings. Infection of Hepatitis B and C also are a threat, with no effective cure. Any time permanent holes are made in the lips, nose and eyebrows they are not easy to repair. Ear piercing of the cartilage of the upper ear is frequently associated with prolonged infection and occasionally permanent disfigurement. Studs and rings can catch in clothes, and can cause large tears in the skin, lip, tongue, etc," reads the article linked in this paragraph.
Spiritual Harm and Damage of Body Piercing
From the Spiritual point of view there are four aspects that need to be looked upon. All of them are dangerous for your spiritual well-being and for your relation with God. All of them harm you spiritually.
Body Piercing Feeds Your Pride
If you are going to pierce you body that means you want to make some type of a statement. You want to stand out from the crowd. You want to say "look at me, look at me, aren't my piercings cool?" That is self-conceit and feeds pride. If you are a Christian and think this is OK that you may be deeply mislead because Jesus says that the people who seek glory and attention from other people can't have the correct faith.
"How can you believe since you accept glory from one another but do not seek the glory that comes from the only God," says the Lord Jesus in John's Gospel 5:44. This means that every time you do something with which you seek glory or attention or appreciation or even a thank you from other people, you see glory from other people, you seek attention and that's self-conceit and you can't seek both the glory from God and glory from people. Jesus said you can't serve two masters.
Little Harmless Things
Some people may say that piercing is a little harmless thing. First of all it is not harmless. But let's talk about the little things. One of the most important words of Jesus in the Gospels that reveal how we should live to be perfect to which he called us in Matthew 5:48 are the words about the "little things." He taught us that "if you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities." Luke 16:10
Many times when we talk about commandments that seem difficult to do people say "oh that's too heavy for me to carry." Well, you need to be in constant spiritual exercise. Consider the weight lifting. You probably can't lift 100 pounds today. However, you can lift 10 pounds. If you exercise daily and keep exercising for weeks and months, probably in several months you will lift more than 100 pounds. Isn't this right?
The word Asceticism, which means a life of discipline comes from the Greek word askesis, which means "exercise" or "training." Therefore, train yourself to be faithful in little things. Then you will be able to carry bigger things.
Parental Disapproval and Honoring Parents
Even if the above three points about the negative health effects of body piercing, pride and little things were not convincing enough know that you will be violating another commandment if you do body piercing against the will of your parents. Honoring your parents is the only commandment from the Ten Commandments that comes with a promise: "Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you," reads the Word of God in Exodus 20:12.
Here is what one parent writes on the subject.
"My son got a piercings last year, and a tattoo 4 years ago. It killed me. I had raised them up not to do that, his wife has about a dozen tattoos, he married her, and piercings on her tongue, mouth, and is stretching out her ears, I am dying. But, what I did tell him was that, cause he said he heard from Christians (mind you that have tattoos) that is is not sin, he went and got one behind my back and I just found out this year, he has had it for 4 years. I cried like a baby.
"I told him, it may not be a "sin" but your sin is disobedience and dishonoring to us his parents, because we told him NEVER to get one. I always told him that that is the stuff that the WORLD does, and we are not to be doing the things of the world. I have rules in my house since they were little, no piercings and tattoos allowed, his wife has them already, but I forbid her to get anymore. She is not listening, and then she got more piercings and was wearing them in my house. I finally said, I have rules and I ask that she respect me for a few hours and take those piercings off, they refused to listen. They won't come around, I haven't seen them for a year. I am sorry for that, but they have to respect my home rules, if they don't like it that is on them. If they love me, they will take that junk off for a few hours while they visit, if not, that is OK. My son is a prodigal right now anyway.
"The Bible doesn't have an age where a child of our is to disobey or dishonor. We are not asking them to sin. If I, as a parent, asked my children to sin, that is the only time they should not obey or honor us. We as parents give in just because they turn "adults." But my son and his wife are wrong, they need to relearn to honor parents. We have done hundreds of things for them, and for them to turn away from us because we ask this of them is wrong," writes this parent in one of the groups about parenting and family life on Facebook.
Direct Command of God Against Body Piercing
Finally, I would like to remind the reader about the direct commandment of God that we have in the Bible against making any cuts on your body. "You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh on account of the dead or tattoo any marks upon you: I am the Lord," reads the Word of God in Leviticus 19:28. While many people may interpret this verse differently to try to find a reason to allow body piercing, the Word is clear: "You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh."
Dear reader. The meaning of life is not in tattoos or body piercings. You don't need a tattoo or a body piercing to make a statement. They will bring you neither joy nor peace. If you disobey all of these reasons and still go for it. You should know that what's considered "trendy" today may not fit what with what you want for yourself later on in life. Instead, get to know your creator God, guard your mind and heart from harmful thoughts. Your thoughts determine your life. Do good works, help the needy, love your God and your neighbor. Then the happiness, true joy and piece will fill your life.