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"The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools and Workplaces, 2nd Edition" reveals a set of compelling, memorable, and easy-to-use strategies for living, teaching and working with passive aggressive people.

Allentown, PA., Jan 8, 2009-- Though there is much anecdotal discussion, watercooler gossip and internet chatter about passive-aggressive behavior, there is very little published on the topic. "The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools and Workplaces, 2nd Edition" by Long, Long, and Whitson fills a void in the published psychology of passive aggressive behavior, using real-world examples and practical strategies to which audiences can easily relate.

The Angry Smile comprehensively examines passive-aggressive behavior in children, adolescents, and adults within families, school settings, and the workplace. This revised and enhanced update to the text first published in 2001 widely broadens its original scope from just children and teachers to passive-aggressive interactions across the lifespan. Brand new chapters on passive aggressive behavior in marriage, extended family, and the workplace open The Angry Smile to husbands and wives, fathers and sons, mothers-in-law and anyone daring to face them, as well as Human Resources managers, supervisors, employees, and general audiences everywhere!

What makes The Angry Smile so valuable is the roadmap it provides for not only understanding the nature of passive-aggressive behavior, but for effectively confronting it. Part 1 of the book, "What is Passive Aggression?" explores the historical roots of the term as well as related anger-management styles such as aggression, assertiveness, and passivity. It describes specific developmental pathways to passive aggressive behaviors as well as the reasons why people use passive aggressive behavior in a variety of situations and contexts. The highlight of this section is the classification of passive aggressive behavior into five distinct (and increasingly pathological) levels.

Part 2, "Identifying Passive Aggressive Behaviors" examines passive aggression in the home, school, marriage and extended family, and in the workplace at each distinct level. Each chapter features relatable, real-world examples of passive aggressive behavior among children, adolescents, and adults.

Part 3, "Changing Passive Aggressive Behavior" introduces the new psychology of passive aggression, explaining such concepts as counter-passive aggression and the Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle. This section also defines eight specific skills for responding to passive aggressive behavior, with an emphasis on self-awareness and self-management.

Benign Confrontation

The final chapter of the book outlines the powerful skills of Benign Confrontation--a how-to feature that busy professionals and weary recipients of the passive aggressor's sugarcoated hostility will not want to miss! This six-step process put the complex skills of managing passive aggressive behavior into easy-to-read, easy-to-relate to terms that teachers, parents, adult children, spouses, family members, bosses, employees, co-workers, and professionals everywhere can use.

Step 1: Recognize the patterns

Step 2: Refuse to Engage


Step 3: Affirm the Anger

Step 4: Manage the Denial

Step 5: Revisit the Thought

Step 6: Identify Areas of Competence

The six-step process of Benign Confrontation equips readers to unmask the hidden anger of a passive-aggressive person, change the destructive nature of this behavioral pattern, and strengthen the relationship in the long-term.

About the book: The Angry Smile by Dr. Nicholas Long

ISBN: 978-1416404231
Publisher: Pro-Ed
Date of publish: Dec. 31, 2008
Pages: 161
S.R.P.: $23.85

About the Authors:

Dr. Jody E. Long is a licensed school psychologist who served for many years in the District of Columbia school system. She received her Ph.D. in counseling psychology from American University and served as the coordinator of the American University-Rose School Program. She has co-authored Conflict in College as well as several professional articles on adolescence.

Dr. Nicholas J. Long is a national leader In teaching and programming for emotionally disturbed children and youth. He received his Ph.D. from the University of Michigan in 1957 and has served on the faculty of Indiana University, Georgetown University, and American University, where he is professor emeritus.

Signe Whitson is a licensed social worker and Program Administrator for the Life Space Crisis Intervention Institute. She has worked as a therapist for emotionally disturbed adolescents and as a clinical trainer for professionals. She has developed and delivered numerous training programs around the country in areas related to child and adolescent mental health. She has served as an adjunct professor of psychology at Moravian University and Lehigh Carbon Community College and as an adjunct professor of social work at Marywood University's Graduate School of Social Work. She co-edited McGraw-Hill's 2002 Annual Editions Online: Adolescent Psychology and is a Features Editor of the Reclaiming Children and Youth Journal.