Incompetent cervix accounts for 20-25% of all second trimester losses. Many women do not even know they have an incompetent cervix until after they have experienced 2 or more losses in the second trimester.
A week before we lost our son, I had gone into the doctor's office for our 19-week ultrasound. My husband and I were so excited to know if we were having a boy or a girl. We were also excited to see real baby features aside from the blobs we had seen at earlier ultrasounds. We had left that office with such pride and we both were glowing from excitement.
A couple days later, I had felt something different. I knew the baby was going to be felt soon. In fact, I thought I had felt a little twinge of a foot or an arm before our ultrasound. But this feeling was something very different. I never had carried a pregnancy this far before so I was not sure what I was feeling. I felt as if the baby had moved somehow, as if the weight of the baby was causing more pressure on my intestines and bladder. Since it did not seem painful nor was it accompanied by other symptoms, I wrote it off as the baby just doing battle with my insides.
Tragedy hit us three days later. I started feeling as if I was constipated. I woke up early Monday morning with pain but it wasn't regular nor was it unbearable. I drank some prune juice and went back to bed. I awoke only an hour later to more pain. It still was not intense but it did start causing me some more concern. I kept feeling like I had to go to the bathroom but nothing would happen. Finally, I knew something wasn't right and I went to wake up my husband to take me to the emergency room.