What is a Stillbirth: Complete Explaination

2005-01-21 13:07

Stillbirth is the death of a baby after the 20th week of pregnancy, but before delivery. The baby may have died in the uterus weeks or hours before labor, or during labor.

How common are stillbirths?

About one in every 150 births, or 1% of all births, is a stillbirth.

What causes stillbirths?

The three major causes of stillbirths are:

Problems with the placenta and/or umbilical cord. Because the fetus gets its blood, oxygen and nutrients through the placenta and umbilical cord, problems in either will interfere with fetal development.

Maternal medical conditions and lifestyle choices. Certain illnesses in the mother, or their treatments, sometimes cause stillbirths. Some of these conditions include chronic hypertension (high blood pressure), preeclampsia, diabetes, lupus, heart or thyroid disease and certain viral or bacterial infections. Older mothers are usually at increased risk for these conditions, as well as for stillbirths. Smoking, drinking alcohol, and using certain recreational drugs during pregnancy are also associated with higher rates of stillbirth.

Birth defects. In about one-fourth of stillborn babies, one or more birth defects are responsible for the death. Many are found only after a thorough examination of the baby and an autopsy.

Unfortunately, more than half of stillbirths are unexplained, which only adds to parents' grief.

What happens after a stillborn baby is delivered?

You will be able to hold your baby, and your health care providers will allow you as much time as you need to spend with your child. You may feel uncomfortable with this idea, but it will be a cherished moment at a later time.

Keep and ask for any mementos and keepsakes of your child such as the I.D. bracelet, blanket, or a lock of your child's hair, and take as many pictures as possible. As with holding your baby, this may also be uncomfortable but it may be a cherished possession at a later time and may help you during your grieving process. Most hospitals will issue the family a birth certificate, but make sure you ask so you are sure to get one, and request that it include the baby's hand and footprints.

Test and examinations

The doctor will carefully examine the baby and placenta to check for abnormalities, and parents may be asked to consent to an autopsy and other studies. In most cases, a blood sample will be taken from the baby and tested for chromosomal abnormalities.

The doctor will also review medical records and the circumstances surrounding the stillbirth.

How can I find out what caused my baby to be stillborn?

Pending your consent, an internal examination (autopsy) can be performed to determine the cause of your baby's death. An autopsy is a surgical procedure performed by a skilled pathologist. Incisions are made to avoid any disfigurement. The incisions are surgically repaired in the usual way. A doctor can explain the procedure in more detail. You have the right to limit the autopsy to eliminate any incisions on your baby that are not comfortable for you (for instance, you can give instructions that no incisions are to be made on the baby's head). Be sure to write these requests on the autopsy permission form.

Some hospitals do not perform their own autopsies, so your baby may have to be transported to another hospital. Be sure you feel comfortable about where your child is being taken.

You have the right to deny an autopsy, if this is your wish.

An autopsy is legally required when:

* A baby has died within 24 hours of a surgical operation
* A doctor cannot certify the cause of death
* A baby has lived (defined as "drawing breath") and died suddenly

What physical symptoms will the mother have after delivering a stillborn baby?

If you have heavy bleeding, fever, chills or pain, contact your health care provider right away. These may be signs of an infection.

After the delivery of the placenta, the milk-producing hormones will be activated. Please talk to your health care provider about your options to stop lactation.

Can a stillbirth be prevented?

Usually a stillbirth cannot be prevented and often occurs because the baby's development was not normal.

Sometimes, treatment of a mother's illness can improve the chances for a successful pregnancy.

Is a funeral necessary?

After the death of your baby, one of the first decisions you will be faced with is whether or not you need to arrange a funeral.

The type of arrangements you make may play an important role in the grieving process. It is a decision that only you and your partner can reach together. You may find that you need time to make your decisions and arrangements. It is quite common for families to take up to a week (and sometimes longer) to make arrangements. This is okay.

No matter what your choice is, you have the right to change your mind be sure you ask whoever is carrying out your arrangements just how long you have to make any changes.

How to communicate with your other children?

You may find your surviving children are a comfort, a worry or just too hard to deal with. These are normal reactions. Take time to grieve and say goodbye to the child you lost. You will eventually feel more normal feelings for your living children, and the bond you have with them may become even stronger because of this experience.

No matter how much you may want to shelter your children from pain, they can sense the emotion around them. Honesty is the best way to help your children cope with this painful experience. Children have a different understanding of death at different developmental stages. Help them to understand as much as they are able, but don't forget that they usually interpret what they're told very literally.

Can I get pregnant after I've delivered a stillborn baby?

Yes. Most women who deliver stillborn babies have subsequent normal pregnancies and births. If the stillbirth was caused by a malformation or umbilical cord problem, the chances of recurrence in a subsequent pregnancy are minimal. If the cause was a chronic maternal illness or a genetic disorder, the risk is somewhat higher. On average, the chance that a woman's next pregnancy will result in stillbirth is about 3%, which means the majority of post-stillbirth pregnancies result in healthy births.

Taking time to heal both physically and emotionally after delivering a stillborn baby is important. Regardless of the stage of pregnancy during which your loss occurred, you are still a mother or father and the life you nurtured was real. Above all, don't blame yourself. Give yourself time to grieve and accept your loss. Counseling is available to help you cope. Pregnancy loss support groups may also be a valuable resource to you and your partner. Ask your health care provider for more information about counseling and support groups.

Discuss the timing of your next pregnancy with your health care provider to ensure that you are physically ready to begin a new pregnancy. Some health care providers recommend waiting a certain amount of time (from 6 months to 1 year) before trying to conceive again. Some studies have shown that women who wait for at least one year to conceive may have less depression and anxiety during a subsequent pregnancy.

Statistics show that about 60% of couples take up to 6 months to conceive and another 30% take up to 12 months after delivery of a stillborn baby. Don't be surprised if things don't happen quickly.

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This information is provided by the Cleveland Clinic and is not intended to replace the medical advice of your doctor or health care provider. Please consult your health care provider for advice about a specific medical condition. For additional written health information, please contact the Health Information Center at the Cleveland Clinic (216) 444-3771 or toll-free (800) 223-2273 extension 43771 or visit Cleveland Clinic. This document was last reviewed on: 9/9/2002

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My baby(Ellen Ann) was born in 1985, and was burried in an unmarked grave, as a that time there was no stillborn garden, as there is now, do Ihave the right to ask for the spot she is to be shown to me. thank you, Mrs christine lawton.
My daughter was born stillborn on 9-17-08 because i had a weak cervix, i was 21 weeks pregnant and my cervix was open 4cm and my water broke and i had to deliver her. I dont wanna wait to try again. Is it really bad to try right away???
my baby died at 20 weeks she had heart failure due to cystic hygroma she had go hydrops and that which made her have heart failure. The cystic hygroma was caused from turner syndrome.Its hard everyday to know that the baby you was carrying and looking forward to raising is now gone but i just have to know that shes a angel in heaven and one day we will meet again.
We had our 3rd son on May 27, 2008. Our oldest son is 5. He was involved in my pregnancy every minute. I noticed about a month after we had Wyatt that he had started to act different. He has more aggression and very emotional. They both got to hold Wyatt, being that that is their litle brother. Do you think with me involving him in EVERYTHING, encluding him holding Wyatt after he passed, is causing his aggression?
I am so sorry for your loss. I can understand how you feel. I was 37 weeks when my son passed away on 1-13-09. I went in for just a standard sono to the high risk dr on 1-6 he found the babies heart rate was 289 bpm but no hydrops. instead of delivering he put me on meds to try to lower babies heart rate. with no success at that by 1-9 he doubled the dose. I was like a crazy woman all week going to drs office, other hospitals just to make sure there was a heart beat. I went to another hospital sunday morning 1-11 because no fetal movement most of the day that was about midnight & everything was ok but heart rate still 289 bpm. went to the high risk dr monday 1-12 at 2pm when my son had no heartbeat. I delivered him stillborn the next morning. I too had my 5 yr old son involved in everything like you did. even though I wanted a picture with all my kids with their baby brother, when he was born he was peeling & he was bluish w/very deep red lips so we felt it wasn't a good idea. I don't think you did wrong be letting your son be involved and I don't think that effected him. it is hard explaining to kids because they don't understand everything. I do have pictures of their baby brother & we talk about him a lot. I hope everything works out for you & again I am so sorry. if you ever need somebody to talk to I am here to lend an ear.sometimes it helps to talk to somebody who has experienced the same thing. god bless erika e_womack2004@yahoo.com
My son was born March 18,2009 stillborn at 30 weeks. We do not know why his heart and lungs were filled with fluid we had an autopsy done but have not gotten any results back yet. I just really hope it shows something so i can rest assure I did not do anything to cause this because it would kill me to know I did something wrong. My daughter is turning 6 and I am not really sure she is taking it all that well when we talk about it she changes the subject I guess maybe that is her way of dealing with the loss of her brother she was included in all of the doctors visits and ultrasounds we had done she was really excited about her baby brother and then all of the sudden we were planning a funeral for her baby brother. I really just pray we will all be ok in this time of grief we are going through.
I myself had a son born on March 18, 2009 stillborn at 21 weeks. We found out it was an umbilical cord issue, the cord got wrapped and knotted off. It has been a really rough time for me...This is the 2nd baby I have lost in a span of 1 year, and I was really hoping that since I had made it through my first trimester that things were going great. I have a lot of guilt and confusion, I wonder what I could have done to save my little precious baby boy. I understand the grief and pain that everyone who has went through this and I don't wish this upon anyone, not even my worst enemies. I hope and pray that 3rd times the charm and I will get to experience the love of a mother and the love from my child. I can only pray that God will give me the opportunity to be a mother to a child of my own one day.
l am sorry for all your losses. l lost my son on the 1st of March 2009 at 38weeks. My hubby saw the baby abd l didnt want to but my doctor told me to see so that l wouldnt regret. At the clinic they took pictures, hair and hand and foot print. l didnt want my family to take pictures coz l didnt want to be reminded of him. My family were told to see the baby too. Up to now l still can not believe that it happened. This was going to be my second, my first is a girl turning 2years on the 24th of April. My doctor wanted to operate at 36weeks due to high blood pressure but l insisted he waits till the 39th week. l didnt think that this might affect my baby coz l thought my doctor just wanted to operate. l was convinced that l was going to give birth normally (VBAC) With my first l went into labour and ended with an emergency c-section so this time around l wanted it natural. l blamed myself for not doing the OP earlier and this really depressed me. Little did l know that every pregnancy is different. l cant wait to fall pregnant again but coz l had a c-section l have to wait for 6months for the wound to heal. lts good to talk to people who have gone through the same thing coz at least you will know how they dealt with their loss.
i just lost my baby boy. he moved all the time in my belly and then one day i couldnt feel him at all. i waited a day and still nothing. i went to the doctor and he could not find the heartbeat using the doppler so he gave me some juice and did a sonogram--- i cannot get his words out of my head "i have some bad news- there is no heartbeat" i did not believe him, i was in shock. i knew something was wrong from the moment my baby stopped moving inside of me. i thought everything was fine since i was already 25weeks along in my pregnancy. this has been the MOST difficuly thing i have ever experienced. my 5 year old daughter has taken it pretty bad- she was anxiously awaiting a sibling and now she has to hear that her baby brother did not make it. i dont know how to make this pain go away.
At 39 weeks I went into labor on June 2, 2009, after a healthy and problem-free pregnancy, I was shocked and deeply saddened to learn the doctors and nurses could not find my daughter's heartbeat. Especially since the night before, when I went to the hospital because of steady labor pains at 6 minutes apart, her heartbeat was perfect. I was only dilated to 2, with steady contractions, but sent home. When my water broke the next morning, it was discoloured. My husband rushed me to the hospital. Ten minutes after arriving back at the hospital, Avarey was stillborn. I blame myself and find myself crying often. It has only been 6 weeks, but I know this is a pain and emptiness I will carry for the rest of my life. May peace find and remain with each of us.
At 39 weeks on 2nd June 2009, I went to hospital for C section. Nurses couldnt find hearbeats of my son. After C section, dr said there were 5 turns of cord around his neck. We did visit Dr just on 1st June at 3:00 , everything was ok. I even felt movements in the eve. I dont know what happened in the night. Is it something I have not realised before... Its 6 weeks now , but I can feel the same pain everyday as if its happend yesterday.
Hi Guys, my name is Louise and im 19 Years old, on the 12th June 2009, at 40 weeks +1, My beautiful daughter Lexi was stillborn. My story is so very similar to Amy73. I had a problem free pregnancy and was low risk and was even planned up to have a water birth. This was my first pregnancy and everything was going good. I also went to the hospital on my due date (Wednesday evening) because i was having mild contractions but they were quite close together, i was sent home that night as i was told its to early and its best to stay at home, the midwife checked the heartbeat and it was fine, so we headed home. That night i experienced very bad pains in my stomach ( i realise now that these aint the same as contractions) but how did i know what they really felt like, this was my first baby. The pains were so irregular, they went on until 5 in the morning. After that on Thursday morning i felt no contractions Nothing! I was told to drink Thyme tea as this brings on labour, it worked and helped bring on the contractions, so on Thursday evening i headed back up the hospital. They ran the sono over my tummy, i showed them where the heartbeat was always picked up. But nothing, i laid there while the midwife called another midwife in and she checked. I knew from that moment my baby was gone because the midwives had that face, a shocked face. but I didnt want to except it, they rushed me into a room and the doctor did an ultrascan, i lay there as still as i could trying to believe its all a mistake. The doctor took ages, No one said a word. They then finished and broke the news, i cried hyterically, screaming Why? Why Me? You realise that on every stillbirth story everyone says the same thing (Why Me? and I Never thought it could happen to me) I was told i had to give birth to my little girl, i was induced and labour was so slow, the birth went completly wrong, her head came out, but her body would not budge. I pushed and pushed but her arm was stuck on my pelvis bone (shoulder dystocia) the midwife callled an emergency team in. I had 4 different people working on me, one of the midwifes was pushing on my pelvis bone, the others trying to pull my little girl out. I thought i was going to die, the pain was so intense. They finally got her out (after 18 hours of labour and about an hour and a half of pushing), 2 mins after she was delivered I had a hemorrhage, and lost alot of blood. She was 8.3lbs. I was told by the midwife that this was the worst case of shoulder dystocia she had come across. I thank God that i am still alive, I never knew about stillbirths, its weird you will never know about it, until you have experienced it. The hospital don't make enough awareness of it, No one warned me about not feeling the baby move could mean distress. They should make it a warning. I miss my little girl so much, its took weeks for the pain to really hit me, that why im on this website crying my eyes out on everyones stories. i am awaiting the autopsy results, i know the results dont make a difference as it wont bring my little girl back, but it matters for future pregnancy's. I just want to tell people my story in full, as i know how it really feels to lose a baby. I know me and my baby will meet one day, but its so hard to carry on, with her on my mind day and night. I hated coming away from that hospital with empty arms, im jealous when i see pregnant women and keep wishing i could be back at that stage. Life can be so cruel.
i gave birth to a stilborn baby girl Tshiamo on the 16th of july 2009 at 31 weeks.i also had a problem free preganancy ,everything was going so well i had started buying things for my baby then on monday morning i felt pains and went to da clinic ,they told me i had a UTI infection and gave me pills then next day i went 2 a doctor n she told me the same thing ,i dont know why i didnt go 2 my usual doctor where i always go after the visits to the clinic for a sonar.thursday morning da pains start again n i knew i had to go to hospital,the doctor checked me n said i was 6cm dilated n my blood pressure was high,when they did a sonar they cudnt see the heart beat i was shocked ,i cudnt even cry.im back at work today n life is so hard but im trying to move on with my life
i gave birth to my daughter kiah lynn on feb 19,2010. i was having a great pregnancy until i was asaulted at my work. i lost her at 20 plus weeks, i miss her everyday and still wonder why, and i wish so much i would have held her longer and taken more pictures.
i lost my daughter kyla nichole-lynn at 23 weeks on march 16 2010 hardest thing ever
i lost my baby when i was eight months i still wonder why and i miss her everyday too. Her name was Gemira l burgess I had her on January 18, 2010.
Our daughter Isabella was born on March 20th 2010. I was 28 weeks pregnant. I was going in for a regular doctor's visit. I always thought that my stomach didn't look that big so I had the doctor measure me. She said that I measured perfectly. She laid me down to listen to the heartbeat and we didn't get one. I was starting to panic but in my head but was trying to reassure myself it was ok. My husband was standing next to me and I know that he was freaking out too but he stayed calm for me. My doctor took us into the ultrasound room and I knew something was wrong. She tried for a few minutes and then called in an ultrasound technician. She also tried for a while and then she said those awful words " I'm so sorry." My husband and I both burst into tears and cried for a while. She told me I would have to deliver her and I delivered her on Sat March 20th after about 9 hours of labor. We miss her so much and I have so many questions. I pray we will get some answers so we won't be so afraid to try again one day.
I AM SO SORRY FOR URE LOSSES.I TO JUST LOST MY SON ON MARCH28,2010,YES JUST PASS SUNDAY,AND MY HEART GOES OUT TO ALL U MOMS WHO LOST THEIR BABIES.I WENT FULLTERM AND ACTUALLY WAS 5 DAYS OVERDUE.WHEN I WENT TO THE DOCTORS ON WEDNESDAY MARCH24, I WAS 1CENIMETER DILATED,AND WAS SENT BACK HOME BY MY DOCTOR,IN PAIN AND JUST READY TO HAVE MY SON.WHEN I AWOKE SATURDAY EVENING I WAS IN EXCRUIATING PAIN AND BLEEDIND BAD. I WENT TO THE DOCTORS AND WAS TOLD THAT I WAS FULLY DILATED,AND THAT MY SON HAD NO HEARTBEAT, AND I HAD TO DELIVER HIM STILLBORN.AS I PUSHED HIM OUT MY IMBILICAL CORD WAS WRAPPED AROUND HIS NECK TWICE,CUTTING OFF ANY AIR SUPPLY THAT WOULD HAD SAVED HIS LIFE...MY WORDS CANT EVEN EXPRESS THE WAY I FEEL.I HAVE A SEVEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER, AND I BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 5 YEARS.HE HAS NO KIDS,AND IT'SREALLY HARD FOR HIM.IT WAS REALLY HARD FOR ME TO TELL COMPLETE STRANGERS WAT JUST RECENTLY HAPPENED TO ME,BUTJUST KNOWING THAT THEIRS OTHER MOMS THATS FEELING MY PAIN,I KNOW ITS ALL LOVE...
MY CONDOLENCES GO OUT TO EVERYONE...I TOO JUST LOST MY SON ON MARCH 26 2010 THIS WAS MY FIRST PREGNANCY I WAS 33 WKS PREGNANT. I WENT TO A REGULAR DOCTORS APPT. AND AS SOON AS I GOT TO THE DOCTORS OFFICE I STARTED TO HAVE REALLY BAD ABDONMINAL AND BACK PAIN, MY DOCTOR WENT TO CHECK FOR THE HEARTBEAT AND COULDNT FIND ANYTHING AFTER TRYING FOR ALMOST 20 MIN. SHE THEN TOOK AN ULTRASOUND AND SAW NO MOVEMENT, I IMMENDIATELY KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG, SHE SENT ME THE HOSPITAL WHERE THERE I FOUND OUT MY SON WAS STILLBORN. THE PAIN HAD WORSENED AT THIS POINT COME TO FIND OUT I WAS IN LABOR. ABOUT AN HOUR LATER I DELIVERED HIM,THE DOCTORS TOLD ME THE PLACENTA HAD DETACHED FROM HIM. HE WEIGHED 4LBS AND WAS 17INCHES LONG, HE WAS SO BEUTIFUL. I HELD HIM IN MY ARMS ALL NIGHT LONG UNTIL THE MORNING I JUST TOLD MYSELF HE WAS SLEEPING. THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE BUT ITS A FACT THAT EVERYDAY GETS MORE AND MORE EASIER.
Hi I pray God will give us peace, nobody else can. I lost my baby boy at 36 weeks pregnant. On Holy Thursday I went to the doctor and heartbeat was 144. A sonogram could not be performed because the equipment was broken, but the heartbeat indicated the baby was ok. On Holy Friday I spent the day home with my 6 year old kid, husband and grandparents. On Holy Saturday at 1AM I suddenly woke up scared and I urinated on the bed. I called the doctor and she informed me to go to the hospital to get checked. I arrived at the hospital at 230 AM and the nurses could not find the heartbeat. The baby was delivered by C-section and weighted 3.5 pounds (very small) and measured 17 inches. This is the worst thing that has happened to us. My husband is crazy and I think I haven't cried all I have to cry yet. We are seeking psychological help and spiritual help. This at least helps with the pain.
So very sorry about you loss. I know what you must be going through as I myself lost a baby girl just over 1 year ago. I found out I had lost my baby at 26 weeks pregnant at a very fun 3d ucbaby appointment with all my family there. My baby had no heart beat, but she couldn't say, she just told my husband to immediately take me to the hospital. It was there I found out my blood pressure was at the point of seisure and stroke. My baby had toxemia and pre eclampsia due to the high blood presure, she could not survive the toxic environment. Last year was so mentally and physically draining. I could not come to terms what had happened. My husband and I have 3 kids all from different relationships and this was to be our first together. I was a manager of a well known restaurant. I had already gave my notice at my job and they had already replaced my position. I guess I could have asked for my job but I was in not emotional state to be in charge of a business, nor was I ready for all the questions from employees and guests. I found it so hard to even leave the house as I had fear of someone asking "where's the baby". Anyways I want you to know that you not alone. You should reach out and talk to people. Make time to heal. Greive. And know that time really does heal. I have never for one second of one day not thought of my baby but it has got easier. Take things one day at a time....one breath at a time. Dont give up hope that you can try again when you are healed. We just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant after a year of trying again. Take care of yourself...and your family.
One week before i turn 7 months the doctor told me that there was no heartbeat of my baby girl...i never thought she was going to died inside of me. During the 6 months everything was perfect i don't know at what time it happend. It has only pass 2 weeks and went i closed my eyes everything comes to my mind, it's really hard. Everytime i went to the prenatal visits the doctor told me everything was perfect, my baby was in good conditions, i miss her kick, i miss her moves...i never had the oppurtunity to hear her cry, or laugh, i had so many things for me and her for the future but now the only thing i do is go and visit her to the cementery and remember eveeything that happend while i was in the hospital for labor and deliver. Now everyday i ask to my self Why did she died? What did i did wrong? I know that my baby is looking at me right at this moment i wish she could be with me and daddy! i was so excited about having her but now i know that shes in a better place with God.
I too lost my child, a boy on May 13, I went for a check-up and was very excited that time was so close now! The doctor said no heartbeat and I just froze, I couldn't even move until hours later. I went to hospital and delivered my beautiful baby boy who was stillborn. My heart is broken now, I was 7 months and 1 week pregnant when it happened.
I too am a recently bereaved parent and carried my son full term til 42 weeks. 3 days before I was due to be induced I woke up and noticed that Luca had not been moving. Remaining positive, I called up my hospital to make an appointment for a day assesment and it was then that I had found out that my son no longer had a heartbeat. I was in total shock as I had felt him move just the night before. That same day I was sent home and told to take some tablets to soften my cervix and that the following day I would need to give birth to him naturally. I had severe complications with the birth as I had a rupture and lost 2.5 litres of blood and was rushed into theatre for an emergency "C section" where I gave birth to a 10lbs beautiful baby. I had so longed to be a mother and start a family of my own and could not believe the hand I had been dealt after loosing both my parent's a couple years ago. I don't know what I have done to deserve this kind of punishment as I had the most perfect pregnancy and loved every single minute of carrying my son. I now have Luca's funeral to prepare for at the end of the month after just giving birth to him on the 25th April. My husband and I are trying to remain positive as I later found out that I was very close to having a historectomy or even worse loosing my own life due to amount of blood loss that I had experienced. To make matters worse, I then had an infection due to the blood transfusion and had to spend the night in Intensive Care. We are both trying to take things one day at a time and definately want to have more kids but will always consider Luca to be our first born and nothing can take that away from us. Best of luck to all you moms out there.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your comment really touched me. On Monday, June 7, 2010, I delivered my son Noah Joshua. I was approximately 38 1/2 weeks pregnant when I delivered him stillborn. Three days prior to his delivery I went to the doctor and had an ultrasound to make sure my placenta was not too low. The doctor advised me that I had dilated 3 CM and instructed me to go to the hospital when my water broke or when my contractions were 5-6 minutes apart. My son's heartbeat was normal and there were no signs of any problems with my pregnancy. A few days prior to the delivery, my contractions gradually started to progress and I didn't experience any abnormal pain. I followed the doctor's orders and admitted myself into the hosptial as my contractions grew closer, expecting to give birth to a healthy baby boy. When I was admitted into the hosptial, I was advised that I had dilated 5 CM and the doctor was preparing to break my water. It was at this moment, that my boyfriend began to contact friends and family to share with them the good news that we were preparing to have our son. However, suddenly our excitement turned to great concern after three different nurses attempted to find my son's heart beat with no success. At which point, we just had a gut feeling that something was wrong. The ultrasound technician was called to perform an ultrasound and consulted with the doctor who confirmed that our son had passed away. The doctor said I would still have to deliver my son and it took every ounce of strength that I had to get through the delivery knowing that my son was not going to be alive. Our son was 7 pounds and 3 ounces and twenty inches long. The only explaination the doctor had for his passing was that the umbilical cord had wrapped around my son's arm, cutting off his circulation. My boyfriend and I can't believe that this happened, hoping that it was all just a bad dream and questioning what could have been done differently to prevent this from happening . I look at my son's pictures everyday wishing that he was here with us and I would give anything to have him in our lives.
I am very sory to hear have gone such ordeal it's pleasant for any human being. I pray for healing o f your heart and that you might put your faith in God alone who can heal any broken heart
I lost my baby girl Kayla at 26 +2 weeks,my girl was so active that i did not feel her movement for about a couple of hours,went to the hospital to discover my baby has no heartbeats.Had an emergency cerclage put in at 20 weeks,the autopsy came in and showed I had an acute chorioamnionitis,looking back and knowing what I know now,emergency cerclage is not a good idea,cos think i got the infection from the procedure...I feel all your pain,it's been 5 weeks since Kayla passed and I still missed her for all the joy she brought into our lives...my heart goes out to all of you with such a loss...but NEVER lose hope..Believe in God and he will surely see u through your next pregnancy.Advise see a doctor right from the word I'm pregnant
i am so sorry for all your Loses i gave birth to my beautiful son Michaeli on the 21st of feb 2010 i was 26 weeks i had a problem free pregnancy everything was going so well untill on wednesday morning the 18th of feb a started having really bad pains so i went to the hospital the doctor said i had pre eclampsia i got taken to melbourne hospital my lil boy was breathing fine then at 2am that morning they couldnt find a heart beat i was devestated he was my first child, my partner was lost for words i cryied and cried for weeks just starting to accept it now! i miss him every day we are trying again i just want to hold a baby in my arms nothing will ever replace Michaeli...
I've been on here reading all about the stillborn babies and how much pain each parent has went through. I couldn't believe I had to push out my dead son. A week prior to having my son I had just found out he was a boy; what me and my husband was wishing and praying for, and I was so excited. I just knew this was it for me. I had a pervious miscarriage at 11 weeks and I didn't stop worring until I hit my second trimester and I started feeling my son kick. At 18 weeks pregnant my water suddenly broke and I just knew I lost my son. I was in labor for 18 hours, crying, panicing, feeling hopless to do anything. My son came out breach and so easily. He was only 5.1 ounces and 7 1/2 inches long...such a tiny little boy. He looked just like my husband. I still don't understand why this happened to me but reading these stories helps me cope just a little bit better, knowing I'm not alone. I want to try again but I don't know if I have the energy or the heart. I keep thinking "What if it happens again?" All I know is I love the little life that came out of me so easily and that I never got to meet. It's crazy how you can love someone you've never even met. He was born and died on April 9, 2010 at 7:27 p.m. Thanks for listening to my story, it helps to know someone feels the same way and someone understands.
I had a beautiful babygirl who was born a stillborn April 8th 2010. She was not expected but we were so happy when we found out. Well at 38 and a half weeks i went in for a regular check up not knowing my doctor would pull out the labtop for an ultrasound showing no heartbeat i delivered her the next morning andheld her very shortly so did the family. The doctor told us to wait 6 months to try again so thats what we decided... At first i thought i would think this one of the one i lost but now im almost 38 weeks and i see this little girl as someone completely different and i just hope the same thing doesnt happen but i trust god will watch over her and let us experience parenthood. I thought i would share our story with you

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