Helping Those In Grief

Grief Support

For someone who has lost a loved one, the holidays can be a time of sadness and pain; however, there are several strategies to help people cope with their loss.

"The holidays can be extremely difficult for people who have lost a loved one," said Lori Flesher, MSW, LISW, bereavement coordinator at Hospice of Summa. "It's important to take time to reflect on feelings, memories and your spirituality."

Flesher offers other tips to help people cope with their loss during the holiday season, including:

* Plan ahead. Though emotional pain will accompany the planning, it will help you feel more in control and less like a victim. But, always leave yourself an out in case things become too overwhelming.

* Make changes. Open gifts on Christmas Eve rather than Christmas morning or change the traditional time or place of dinner.

* Choose the "right" people. Choose to spend time with friends and family who will permit you to express your feelings and thoughts.

* Be realistic. Set limits and do those things that are meaningful to you.

* Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, exercise and nutrition. Avoid drugs and alcohol, as they tend to mask grief.

* Remember to remember. If you have lost a loved one, remember them in a way that is meaningful to you.

* Do something for others. Reach out to others who are in need, or do something in your loved one's name.

* Express your grief. Don't fight your feelings.