Marriage Problems Linked to Emotional Disconnection Disorder
About half the marriages in the United States end in divorce, and there are many reasons why these relationships do not endure. One reason for divorce and marriage problems has been linked to emotional disconnection disorder, also known as alexithymia.
Why some couples don't communicate
Sometimes it seems that the more ways we have to communicate with each other (phone, text, email, fax, snail mail, video), the less adapt we are at doing so. Marriage is a relationship that can thrive when communication is good between partners but suffer miserably when it is not.
At the University of Missouri, researchers examined the prevalence of alexithymia among 155 heterosexual couples. The study was headed by Nick Frye-Cox, a doctoral student in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies.
Alexithymia (which comes from the Greek and literally means "no words for emotions), is a psychological condition characterized by an inability to identify and verbally describe one's own emotions and the emotions of other people as well. People affected by alexithymia also have a limited ability to think in imaginative ways and to experience dreams or fantasies.
Instead, individuals with alexithymia focus on facts and have an external way of thinking that often leaves other people to describe them as aloof, unfeeling, and unable to empathize with others, including their family and other loved ones. It's easy to see, therefore how these traits would make it difficult to maintain a successful marriage.
Frye-Cox and his team gathered information from both spouses in the study group and determined that 7.5 percent of the men and 6.5 percent of the women fulfilled the criteria for alexithymia. These percentages are in line with those found in previous research.