Should Access to Grandchildren be a Legal Right?
Grandparents love to spoil their little treasures, a not so well kept secret parents of the child worry about, but they often have absolutely no legal rights to see their grandchildren. There are, however, laws that focus on the "best interest of the child" that a grandparent can utilize to ensure he or she is not denied the right to see their spoiled favorite little people. On the other hand, most times the elder generation is dependent almost fully on the middle generation's good nature and love for parent or mother/father-in-law in order to enjoy the youngest generation of the family.
When the grandparent is denied that right to see the grandchild, many problems may arise. You see, it is not so rare to have children in divorced families kept away from a parent, and subsequently that parent's parents. An online forum within the Grandparents.com website is called Grandparents without Grandchildren, a safe space to rant and ask questions, share stories and not feel so alone in the process. For some, they have problems with their grandchildren, others are denied access to seeing them, while others still live in the world of ipads and technology for a chance to glimpse their little grandchildren living far away.
I have my own examples when looking at this topic. My uncle's wife moved to Canada where she had her children, far away from her family. For the most part, her parents have only seen their grandchildren over skype and pictures forwarded over the internet, grandparents pining away to have those little ones playing on their knees. They feel the yearning to see the little girls all the time and the few times they have physically been in the children's presence, it seemed as if they could not get enough of them. The love was overflowing and you could tell they missed their little angels so. Of course, should the grandparents have had sole custody over the children, they might have suffered from deep depression themselves, a University of California and Berkeley study says. The perfect balance would be to have the parents as primary caregivers and grandparents as the favorite old people who spoil the children rotten. After all, those who have never had such memories of childhood have most definitely missed out on much available love.